There’s been quite a bit of hate in CrossFit-land lately. Or maybe it’s always been like that and I’m just noticing. It all started with another article condemning CrossFit, CrossFit boxes, CrossFit coaches and people who do CrossFit. Look lady, you had a bad experience. No sport is perfect. I can give you a laundry list of swim coaches who have no business being on a pool deck. It doesn’t mean that I think swimming is a horrible sport that causes ungodly amounts of shoulder injuries. I did appreciate the outpouring of defense against this misinformed person. I didn’t think it was necessary in the first place, but it was good reading.
I thought the Negative Nancy episode had passed and then I saw this:
My first reaction was WHY? Why would you post something like that? Put yourself in her shoes. You’ve worked your ass off to get where you are and you’re working to get to the Games. And you don’t make it. Can you imagine that? Can you imagine the gut-wrenching reality of putting in all of that work, sharing yourself with the CrossFit community and not achieving your goal? IT F**KING SUCKS. (Sophomore year of high school – trained my ass off to make it to the state swim meet and didn’t make it. Trust me, it blows).
And then I realized a few things.
1. It’s really easy to make fun of people behind a computer screen. You can’t see their reaction to your hurtful words.
2. People are mean. Plain and simple. This is one of those universe-searching questions, but why do people have to be mean? If we spent a fraction of the time building people up rather than cutting them down, this planet we call home would be a much better place. I feel sorry for these people. I feel sorry that they have to belittle others so that they feel better about themselves.
3. We need more people who build one another up than tear one another down. That’s really the crux of CrossFit. Cheering people on even if they are the last one to finish. Telling them they’ve done a good job during the WOD even if it wasn’t a good day for them. Building them up. Life is way to short to be a crabby prick.
Back to the photo above. I would like to point out that past Games athletes have not qualified for Carson this year (Lindsey Valenzuela, Sam Briggs, Graham Holmberg). But yet, this assclown decides he’s going to call out Andrea Ager. I feel so many emotions about this. Anger is one of them. Sadness is also another. I had the wonderful opportunity to attend an AgerBomb seminar in March and to hear Andrea’s story. From the minute you meet her, the passion and love for life, CrossFit, God and others is so evident. She is such a positive person. And she has learned that from her life experiences – good and bad. In a short five hour time period, I learned so much on how to handle adverse situations. The seminar goes so far beyond being a better CrossFitter – Andrea showed me (at least) how to handle adverse situations and appreciate all that you have in life.
I wonder, do people expect these athletes to bitch and moan on Facebook and other social media platforms about how they got screwed and make up a million excuses as to why they aren’t going to the Games? (PS – this is one of the million reasons as to why I am not a Tiger Woods fan – he never owns up to the fact that he just had a bad round; I could write an entire post on Tiger Woods and why I won’t cheer for him). Each of the athletes I mentioned were very graceful in this setback. They have something that the person who made that comment does not: CLASS. I am sure that Lindsey, Sam, Andrea and Graham were extremely disappointed that they aren’t going to the 2014 Games. However, they found the positives out of this situation and were thankful that they had the opportunity to compete, because there are thousands of others that did not get the opportunity. I have so much more respect for these four individuals because of the way they handled this situation and I hope that they make it back to the Games next year. And I can’t wait to see the inspirational posts on Instagram. Because it’s easier to blame everyone but yourself, freak out and throw shit than it is to stand there and answer the same questions over and over.
A small piece of advice before I leave you today. The next time you want to hate on someone or make fun of them because they have fallen short of a goal, show some love. It’s easy to point the finger and laugh at their misfortune. But show some love. I know that I’m certainly going to try. And if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all (I know this is so third grade, but it still works). If we’re going to get through this crazy thing called life, we need to start by showing some love.
WOD On (and to steal Ellen’s closing tag) and Be Kind to One Another,